Hard times are somewhat inevitable and most of the time hit us quite unexpected. They also tend to get even harder and unable to get out of them when we let these times drag us down even further. Our negative thoughts provoke negative emotions which again birth even more negative thinking. And so this seemingly endless cycle of bad energy determines our lives. But you should never ever forget, that after darkness there is light. Always. What other purpose do these moments hold in store for us other than teaching us our most important things that we need in life?
Every time we come out from the depths of our darkness we see the light.
Hard times teach us something important, and it mostly has to do with contrast. When we experience contrast it is mostly accompanied by suffering. We start to question our own beliefs and purpose. What we did or were living before was someone else’s understanding of what life should be. It was never really our own. This is what these tough times do to me, they lead me towards my most authentic and highest self.
We can NEVER hide from our highest self, it just knows what we came here on this beautiful earth to do. If we are somewhere far away from it, of course we have to experience contrast. And from what I have learned so far the closer I get to fully embrace and live my truth the harder it hits me when I unconsciously move away from it. I write unconsciously because that’s what it is. Life gets in our way and we mostly don’t recognize it.
We are always so obliged to follow the rules, the understanding of how life should be as we kind of grew up with these understandings of what society calls a norm.
We should be grateful for those tough episodes in our lives. When there seems to be no way out of them, I try to embrace this feeling. I immerse myself in this darkness knowing that it is here only for my highest good. Sure, I need to remind myself of this truth more than once, but it gets better every time around.
- Never give up on yourself
- Focus on your breath when anxiety hits you hard
- Focus only on joyful moments in your day, no matter how small they might seem to be
- Know that this is only temporary as life is constantly changing
- Ask yourself what it is you can learn from this time
- Write in your journal
- Move your energy by doing yoga, breathwork or dance around your space unrestrained
I gathered some of the most asked questions about this topic here for you. Hopefully, they can help you understand and embrace your hard times a bit more.
What do these hard times teach us?
They teach you everything you need to know to be clear on your purpose. They demand from you to set intentions on how to be your self entirely. You have the opportunity to learn how to release all fears because they do not serve you nor have they ever served you in any kind of way. Believe this as this is your only truth to live within your own expansiveness. Take time to surround yourself with light. Light is the only answer you need in order to be your own guidance. Your highest self always knows the truth. Start asking it questions!
Why do hard or dark times take us off our path for a certain time?
They are here for us to experience contrast. Contrast is all you need to live within your time of struggle. When you take time to know yourself you know it all. The answers always lie within and you have the power to access it all the time, for example through meditation. But this is where the problem lies – with acceptance. Mostly you do not want to accept your truth. And this is when struggle and uncertainty come into play. You know what you want. This is what contrast is for. It is actually for your own and highest good. Really try to never be hard on yourself when experiencing contrast. It leads you back along the way. Accept your truth and surrender – expansion is what follows. The guidance lies within.
How do we know that we are about to embody our purpose?
You know it when you are connected and you are always connected. The sign is to be satisfied and feel joy. The outcome is always love and light. You know when you are close to embodying your purpose when you are doing what you love the most. Do what you love and you are about to embody your truth. Trust that you will have the desired outcome in any given moment of your life.
You are always on your path and it could be any moment that something magical happens because you trust and you believe. And you never stop, no matter how tough life gets.
What if I struggle with that at hard times?
You never struggle, you just learn how to live and how to re-learn your purpose. You just find other paths to walk along, you simply enter other roads and sideways that take you towards your fulfillment. All of them are right for you as you are always learning on your way. This is what is called living your life. You are the only person who sees it as a struggle. See it as bliss and be thankful.
And how can I overcome anxiety?
You can state that anxiety is just a vibration. You have the ability to shift this energy. See anxiety as a different vibration, see it as excitement and joy is what follows.
What if I don’t like doing something but feel obliged to do it anyway?
This is contrast, pure contrast that you feel. You only need to do something that you love. Follow whatever lights you up and leave the rest behind. Never do something that you don’t want to do.
What if I am obliged to do something because there is no other way?
There is always another way, you just chose the hard one. The easy one is always right in front of you.
How can I tap into the easy one? By doing simple things that you love, things that bring you joy. Then notice the next step that is presented and then the next and then the next and the next…
And if there is no next step presented, what do I do then? There is always a next step presented to you, you are just unable to see it. Be more conscious of the things that happen around you. Watch carefully with open eyes and you will learn to appreciate the small things/steps that are being presented. Acknowledge them and be thankful. Gratitude leads to satisfaction. This is your path.
I hope this post could help you understand these hard times a little bit better and that it helps you to see them in a different light, a more positive light.
Always remember: Be kind to yourself, because you deserve it.
Much love, Natascha
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